Sunday, October 19, 2008

Self-esteem before puberty doesn't mean self-esteem after puberty

There was a commercial on TV where Dove was saying they created self-esteem workshops for girls, presumably to help them with body image issues.

Problem: the little girl in the commercial was pre-pubescent, probably about 8 years old. She's never had a zit in her life because she isn't old enough yet.

You know what? You can saturate a person with self-esteem at the age of 8, and that doesn't mean a thing once puberty hits. You want to do self-esteem? Do self-esteem on the girls whose faces are oozing pus, scalps are oozing oil, armpits are oozing sweat, and vaginas are oozing blood. Do self-esteem on the girls who suddenly sprouted more hair than they could possibly imagine and whose parents say they are too young to shave it, and who desperately want to quit swimming because they can't quite figure out how to keep all that hair contained in their regulation swimsuit and they just can't make tampons go in, but their parents and coaches tell them not to wimp out and be a quitter. Do self-esteem on the girl who gained six inches and 30 pounds and three shoe sizes over the summer even though her friends are still petite. Do self-esteem on the girl who is embarrassed that her nipples show through her white school uniform shirt, and is also embarrassed that the shape of her bra shows through her white school uniform shirt. Do self-esteem on the girl who can grow a better mustache than any of the boys in her class. Do self-esteem on the girl who needs glasses and braces in a school where people get extensively tormented for wearing jeans that are the wrong shade of blue.

Anyone can make an 8-year-old feel good about themselves. Try doing it for the kids who really need to feel good about themselves.

1 comment:

laura k said...

Oh yeah! Excellent post.

This is the basic misconception behind the anti-drug crusade directed at pre-teens. Every 8 year old will stand up and pledge to be drug-free. She hasn't the slightest idea why she might ever want to do a drug. Everyone says drugs are bad, why would she want to be bad, so no thanks, no drugs for me! Five or six or seven or ten years later, things may look very different.