To the writer of the second letter here:
I'll bet you anything "Elaine" is an introvert. She actually does need to stop and think about how to respond. It isn't passive-aggression. Her thoughts don't come to her immediately as words, and she cannot just talk out her thoughts. She does not have the words - her thoughts do not exist in word form - until she stops and thinks about how to formulate them.
Read The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney for information about how this works and how you, probably being an extrovert who thinks by talking, can coexist with this.
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who thinks by talking
I do this, and I think by writing. And I think my partner does what you describe.
We've learned how to coexist, but I could have used a manual at some points.
Thanks for the insight.
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