We need a word and natural consequences for that thing where people assume that the goal/motivation behind a particular action of yours is different from your actual goal/motivation, and then lecture you because that action isn't to achieve the goal that they've unilaterally attributed to you (which you aren't even trying to achieve in the first place).
"You shouldn't buy those Cortland apples. You should buy Gala instead because they're organic."
Except my goal isn't to eat what's most optimally healthy or environmentally friendly, my motivation is to eat what's most yummy to me.
"You shouldn't buy that used widget on ebay. You can get newer widgets for cheaper at Big Box Store."
Except my goal isn't to get the cheapest widget, it's to get the specific widget that's worked for me in the past when other widgets haven't.
"You shouldn't buy a new condo. The maintenance costs will go way up."
Except my goal isn't to have maintenance costs that never go up, my goal is to live in a brand new building in a suite that no one else has ever lived in before.
Any ideas for names for this phenomenon or attendant natural consequences?